How To Be A Player, A Grand Benders Q&A with Patrick Coco
Patrick is Coco’s ladies man. And he has lots to teach ordinary mortal males about how to be a player.
We recently sat down for a Q&A Patrick.
Here are the steamy details of our conversation:
Q: Where is the best place in the world to meet women — and don’t say Grand Bend!
A: It is actually Grand Bend (ha ha) but only because I spent the majority of my life there. In all honesty, I would have to say anywhere in Canada or where you feel the most comfortable. With traveling, you can run into many obstacles such as languauge and culture.
Q: There are players, and then there are players. What are the five qualities that a great player must have?
A: The five qualities are…
1. Takes pride in personal appearance
2. Exceptional multi-tasking skills
3. Confidence and ability to persuade
4. Charming and funny
5. Being able to adapt quickly and move on
Q: Can nice guys be players?
A: Yes. Why? Am I not a nice guy?
Q: What is your greatest asset? Humour? Confidence? Your hair?
A: I would say it’s a mix of everything. Girls like funny confident guys with nice hair, no?
Q: What is your best pick-up line?
A: Interesting question… It depends on the time and place but generally speaking I use the “confused boy” approach. Approach a girl and ask them something completly irrelevant to picking them up. They reply thinking they are simply helping out but little do they know, they are under attack (ha ha).
Q: Why does it work?
A: It works because you are not scaring them or using cheesy pick-up lines like “Let me buy you a drink”. Instead the conversation is much more natural and gets things flowing.
Q: Has a pick-up line every failed? When?
A: Pick-up lines fail all the time. You have to choose wisely. I remember when I came to Korea I would try and pick-up Korean girls — which by the way is a whole new ball game. But the simple, “Hello do you speak English?” line was by far the winner for the most rejections. They would either giggle and run away or just give you the big two handed X. No joke. Instead, I learned a few key phrases in Korea that have have drastically changed everything. “Annyeonghaseyo, Chonun Patrick imnida”. You bow to them while saying this and BANG. Translation: “Hello, my name is Patrick”. This makes them feel much more comfortable even if it’s the only thing you can say.
Q: Do players have the reputation they deserve? Or are they misunderstood romantics?
A: I personally believe it is a misunderstood mentality. There are polygamisitc religions which allow men to have multiple wives. I don’t think I would be able to handle something like that. Sometimes one woman can be a handfull. However, while you’re young you should be free to enjoy your life and try and meet as many people as possible. Once the ring is on the finger, you should never linger.
Q: What about online dating? How difficult is it to keep the player vibe going online? Any tips you’d like to share?
A: I don’t do online dating, I don’t have trouble meeting people in everyday encounters. I’m assuming it would be very easy though. Open a Plenty of Fish account if you’re really in need.
Q: Breath-freshener? Yes? No?
A: I think if you brush your teeth the recommended two times a day and throw in a piece of gum here and there before your move, you’re fine.
Q: Cologne? Yes? No?
A: Very important, woman assosiate good smells with good times. Personal favorite although a bit generic, Armani’s Acqua di Gio.
Q: Chest hair? Yes? No?
A: I don’t have any and prefer it that way. Nothing worse than a bear rockin a deep V.
Q: What’s the difference between a player and a pick-up artist?
A: A player continues his adventures for a much longer time beyond the initial encounter point. Also, the player will plan his attack wisely insted of just running around the bar offering to buy drinks for every blonde girl.
Q: Have you ever met a “playerette”? Are they playable? Or simply avoidable?
A: I believe there is another term used to describe these type of women. They are playable but you’re probably getting played at the same time. So, it’s probably best to avoid this type. Also on this note, this type of female will be degraded by both the opposite sex as well as their female counterparts. As opposed to a male who will be praised by other males for his ability to get many women.
Q: How do you break-up with someone without making them hate you?
A: Ha ha, oh boy. There are certain steps you need to take in order to avoid this. But sometimes it is simply unavoidable. You want to end things off on good terms, but this is difficult at time especaially if you’re ending it because something is not going right. I think the key here is time. Both parties need their own space and time when things go back to neutral. And, I’m not talking no texting for two weeks. This can range for months to years depending on the length and intensity of the relationship.
Q: Any final tips for all the would-be players out there?
A: “You miss 100% of the shots you don’t take”. Don’t be a pussy and approach girls. They are humans just like you. Just don’t do it in a creepy way.
Q: Finally, who will take your place at Coco’s now that you’re in South Korea?
A: I personally believe there is no substitute for me (ha ha). But, the next runner-up is “Prof”, my younger brother. He still has a lot too learn — and big shoes to fill– but i’m sure if he puts his mind to it he will succeed.
Do you have a question for Patrick? Post it below. GRAND BENDERS airs Tuesdays at 9 pm (et/pt) on bpm:tv and repeats at 7 pm (et/pt) on Saturdays.